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YourBonusMom's avatar

LOL when I was in my 30s I was a massage therapist with a long blonde braid and people used to tell me I was like Phoebe. I didn’t appreciate it because they treated me like a dumb hippie girl (I have a masters degree) but when my teen got into Friends some years back I embraced my Phoebeness wholeheartedly. Because she’s the whole package, funny, tough, smart, quirky and neurospicy AF and so am I ❤️. I have learned a lot about handling people with humor and about self love from Phoebe. One of my favorite Phoebe lines is “Oh, sorry I can’t do that, because I don’t want to” 😂😂😂

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Lisa-Marie Cabrelli, Ph.D.'s avatar

So happy you embraced your inner Phoebe. Phoebe rocks! I love that line.

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Karla Hampton's avatar

I just wanted to say a deep, heartfelt thank you for creating and sharing the Sacred Slacker Archetype. It resonated with me on a soul-deep level—the kind of resonance that makes you exhale and think, “Yes. Finally, someone named it.”

Your words gave shape and permission to a part of me I’ve long cherished but often felt I had to tuck away. The Sacred Slacker helped me reframe softness, rest, weirdness, and joy not as indulgences, but as sacred, radical acts. As someone who deals with chronic illness and fatigue, this archetype feels like both balm and boundary.

I’ve already started integrating Sacred Slacker energy into my daily rhythms—through slow mornings, intentional art-making, and moon rituals. I even created a full invocation ritual so I can call this archetype into my life whenever I need to return to my most authentic, unbothered, and creatively juicy self. 🙌 ☺️

Thank you for giving us this language, this lens, this liberation. I’ll be carrying the Sacred Slacker torch forward—softly, rebelliously, and with a whole lot of heart. 💖

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Lisa-Marie Cabrelli, Ph.D.'s avatar

🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

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Leslie Senevey's avatar

Love this label. It makes me think of that airplane trope of putting your own oxygen mask on first. Taking care of your own needs is the foundation for the house of your life.

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Lisa-Marie Cabrelli, Ph.D.'s avatar

We absolutely need to put on our oxygen masks first. Great analogy.

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Stella Fosse's avatar

This is fabulous. Americans in particular work too damn much and our identities are way too tied up in productivity. Here's my take:

"Work Sucks for Women Too"

https://open.substack.com/pub/stellafosse/p/work-sucks-for-women-too?r=yq3s3&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=false

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