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Mala Viss's avatar

I hadn't thought about the identity piece. You're totally right though. Those of us who have been reinventing ourselves our whole lives are going to find AI evolution easier to embrace.

The youths are having the same experience as a careerist's first recession. It's yet another example of "doing everything right" (according to ....?...) but the formula they followed doesn't yield the results they were told would come. It can be crushing to hope and confidence. We can be there for them, encouraging them to find their identity apart from external labels.

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Lisa-Marie Cabrelli, Ph.D.'s avatar

Yes! May we all find one or many twenty-somethings to mother through this coming difficult time.

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Suzanna Quintana's avatar

Incredible piece. And I am soooo happy for your daughter!

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A. E. Costello's avatar

This was so interesting (and validating) as I been in an ongoing conversation read argument with a close friend about A.I. I'd have to share the parts about A.I. stripping identities and jobs away with this friend, maybe that will get them to realize A.I. isn't as awesome as they believe. Thank you for sharing this!

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Lisa-Marie Cabrelli, Ph.D.'s avatar

I'm glad it resonated!

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Rosie Meleady's avatar

So true. I have had to reinvent myself career wise again and again during the last 30 years. You’ve also made me realise something; both my parents died recently and my ID as a daughter has now been shed. I hadn’t thought of that… with it, my sense of duty is gone, which has left a void but I think a sense of freedom will come from that perhaps… 🤔

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Lisa-Marie Cabrelli, Ph.D.'s avatar

That’s a tough one, Rosie and I’m sorry for your loss. Perhaps a sense of freedom not from the loss of your parents (of course) but from the release of having to perform the role of “daughter,” however they defined it for you.

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Mala Viss's avatar

An experience coming for me as well pretty soon, I fear.

When I became a Divorcee I had to decide what that meant for my future. For me it meant "freedom" or "return" (to my sense of self.)

Notice that we have no word in American English for "daughter left behind" like we do "widow(er)."

Perhaps it just is.

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Deidre Woollard's avatar

With over a third of people now freelancing/gig working, we've learned that job security is an illusion. Job titles are, as you point out, not identity. I never did the mother part of life and I'm a wife without ever really changing my life, so I never felt that identity change.

The writers tend to feel the shifts first, the shift to online, the shift to social media and short attention spans, and now AI. We always find our way because what is unique about us isn't our output, it's our ability to process lived experience. This AI cannot do. Viewpoint matters.

I see young people rushing back to the trades, to cooking, to not losing their lives in a laptop. I think that's mostly a positive, if only for their own health and well-being.

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Lisa-Marie Cabrelli, Ph.D.'s avatar

Young people rushing back to the trades is also smart. I think this is where the future opportunity (or purpose) lies. My concern is that although AI can not process lived experience, it can convincingly fake it, which doesn't bode well for us writers. I don't believe great human writing will ever go away; it will just be much, much harder to forge a career from it.

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