Clean generosity, I love the concept. Especially since I’ve come to realise that coercive control can often be disguised as ‘generosity’ but with strings attached
I love this entire dictionary!! My favorites are fallow period and self-curating. I would love to add an alternative to "gratitude." I wrote a piece last year lamenting the overuse of the word as a cure-all that lacked any real meaning. How about something like, "privilege cognition?" It is different than using the G-word because it doesn't negate the opportunity to also be really pissed off.
I remember when I realized I didn’t have the language to express myself in my 30s! I acted out like a child. And until I took myself to a mindfulness retreat and learned mindful awareness I was extremely unhappy without the words.
Thank you for sharing this. I love all of our new vocabulary, but what strikes me most is the generosity in your language: not just “selflessness,” but clean generosity itself, the idea of giving freely while knowing your limits. It feels like a gift, both to the reader and to the women you’re inviting into this conversation.
I love this so much. Re-selfing is such a good one for the parts of us we have erased. thank you for doing the work with starting this dictionary and giving us the language.
Clean generosity, I love the concept. Especially since I’ve come to realise that coercive control can often be disguised as ‘generosity’ but with strings attached
So insightful, Julie. I agree with you.
I love this entire dictionary!! My favorites are fallow period and self-curating. I would love to add an alternative to "gratitude." I wrote a piece last year lamenting the overuse of the word as a cure-all that lacked any real meaning. How about something like, "privilege cognition?" It is different than using the G-word because it doesn't negate the opportunity to also be really pissed off.
Oh Jeez! That's a good one, Ingrid. But does it make us less grateful? I'll have to think about this one.
I remember when I realized I didn’t have the language to express myself in my 30s! I acted out like a child. And until I took myself to a mindfulness retreat and learned mindful awareness I was extremely unhappy without the words.
Thank you for sharing this. I love all of our new vocabulary, but what strikes me most is the generosity in your language: not just “selflessness,” but clean generosity itself, the idea of giving freely while knowing your limits. It feels like a gift, both to the reader and to the women you’re inviting into this conversation.
I think it's something we are all learning in our second coming-od-age, Mary.
I love this so much. Re-selfing is such a good one for the parts of us we have erased. thank you for doing the work with starting this dictionary and giving us the language.
I'll be there are so many more words to add.
Re-selfing is my absolute favorite! It's a return -- not another chore like "self-discovery"
Language really is the first step in transformation. Reclaiming our words feels like reclaiming oxygen where we get to breathe in our own truth again.